American culture has grown accustomed to quick results: faster Internet speeds, quicker commutes, microwave meals, instant download of music and movies, and access to everything imaginable. As a result, most Americans have a low tolerance for frustration, so they are incredibly impatient. Sit at a green light for more than a nanosecond and you will see this impatience in action.
While many things can change quickly, from the weather to the stock market, working through addiction recovery is a long-term process; in fact, it is a lifelong pursuit that begins during treatment, and it continues for the rest of one’s life. However, you can develop greater patience for a loved one’s sobriety by implementing the following principles:
- Set realistic expectations – You will become increasingly frustrated and impatient with your loved one if you have unrealistic expectations, so know up front that your loved one will make mistakes, she will disappoint you, she will struggle with relapse and temptation and she may become unmotivated. However, these problems do not mean that she has failed in her rehab journey. If you know that recovery takes time, then you can develop and maintain patience.
- Understand the nature of addiction – Addiction is not just a series of poor choices or a matter of weakness, but a chronic disease that often involves relapse and a renewed treatment plan. When you understand the physical nature of addiction, the more likely you will show patience.
- Examine the root of impatience – Sometimes, impatience with someone has more to do with ourselves than the person with whom we are impatient. For example, you may become irritable because a loved one changes the way he relates to you, and such a change makes you scared or nervous. Similarly, you may become impatient with a recovering loved if the goals you have imagined for him differ from his own. By stopping to evaluate the underlying reasons for your impatience, you may discover that the real problem is you, not your loved one.
- Let go – You may become impatient with your loved one while he recovers from addiction, especially if you have been holding grudges for previous offenses. Hanging on to anger will only increase impatience, so, even if your loved one has yet to apologize, decide whether or not you will forgive and move on in the relationship.
The aforementioned list is only a few ways you can develop patience for a loved one who is recovering from Ambien addiction. Without patience, the relationship with him will deteriorate, so learn how to promote recovery while you also stay close with your loved one.
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